Heroes

Everyone I know has some kind of hero they admire.

I'm not one of those people.

I learned at a very young age anyone you lookup to has done something that makes them more human. To me that meant they hurt someone, whether they did it on purpose or not, I didn't know.

I had looked for a hero in history, yet I couldn't find anyone I admired enough to call a "hero" because I didn't want to be like any of them. I looked at my parents, my friends' parents, other adults- and I still was unable to find one person I wanted to be like.

When I was a kid, I wanted to be a cartoonist for Disney. I wanted to have a paid internship and travel. I had a full ride to art school and the doors were opening for me at just fifteen years old.

About six months later, I met my first boyfriend who later became my ex husband. He was toxic, abusive, and controlling to say the least. Because of the choices I made with him, I let go of my dreams and started a new path.

I was now a barely 20 year old divorce' with two babies under two. I no longer had time for college because I had to work to pay rent, buy food and diapers, and be an adult.

The struggle was real.

I went through depression, gained a ton of weight. Then I found myself returning to my spirituality very slowly. I started walking my dog after dinner and putting my kids to bed. I meditated every morning. Nap time I would read books. I found time to find myself and become a person I could live with.

I accepted being a single mother. I didn't date because I felt I didn't need a man for anything except the occasional bedtime fling. I was responsible, chose a partner who I respected and he respected me. We had boundries and limits. He wasn't allowed to let anyone know we were together, we chose to have only eachother as a sexual partner. We used protection and respected each other.

After a while that arrangement didn't work for him any longer, yet I couldn't give him more. We were and still are friends. He helped me to realize not all men are bad, Sex isn't always painful, and I deserve to feel loved unconditionally.

That unconditional love was something I never felt before I was a mother. I learned I didn't love him the way you love someone you want to spend your life with and we mutually broke up when neither of us was the person the other needed.

Another year of self discovery, reconnecting with myself and becoming content with my identity, I found myself working 2 full-time jobs and one part-time. I had no time for my kids and just enough money to pay bills, have food, and a tiny bit saved for a "rainy day."

I had found myself feeling numb as a seemingly happy single mother of two, working seven days a week, and having no time for those two people who meant the most to me. I was spiritual, and I was one with the goddess. Yet something was missing.

I was proud of the person I had become and all I went through.

One day my brother's friend fell on my four year old son, breaking his femur. A week later, I finally had a beautiful Sunday off from all my jobs. This day was my first day off in months and I decided I was spending it with my children doing something fun. This day changed my life forever.

I met a man who changed my view of being happy.

Here I am almost eleven years later with my best friend and partner in life. We have three, almost four children together. Including the two from my "before I met him" life.

Through that journey, I became my own hero and it paid off for me.

Since that life, I have met extraordinary people. People I am proud to call my family.

I have stood my ground as to who I am. I inspire others to do the same. I have helped my partner stop feeling badly for being human and having faults. He has gone from being unsure of hisabilities, to bring just as strong, if not stronger than I am.

He's my best friend. He's a true hero to us. He gave my children a father and dad, he returned their mother. Since that day, I work only on school days. We do things together as a family as often as possible. We live a life I never thought possible.

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Witch On A Budget

Most of us witches are on a budget. Anything from a limited income or having a family and our expenses and more important items come first.

If you're new and looking for a place to start your journey, where do you start?

I say start by reading. There are a ton of books available through your library, online and friends. If your library is missing the books you're after, check the online catalogue and go from there.

There are also tons of resources online to help you get started.

Don't buy books first hand. EBay and Amazon have great sales on used books and also secondhand shops.

Many items you can find online inexpensively or you can chose pay big bucks for basically the same items.

What do you need to get started in witchcraft? It really depends on your goals and starting point.

I'm a firm believer in only paying for the necessities. There are groups out there that you can pay to do their "witch course" that gives you an "in" to their coven. Any good coven will allow you to join for free. The ones you pay for is really just a scheme, in my opinion. Sure it's a fast track for information, but when you have 30-100+ people joining your coven at $500-800/each once a year, you have enough of an income for a years worth of a real job. It makes me angry... But to each witch their own.

One person's path is not the same as another.  What you're willing to pay is up to you.

I've spent most of my money on books over the years, most of them 75% off. Then is my crystals. I have an enormous collection. I get tools from tag sales and clearance sections.

I personally refuse to allow my craft to bankrupt me.

There are a few places you can go to and join their "year and a day" workshop to join their coven or have the tools to go out on your own after the year. Those you'll find by going to a local metaphysical store. Look online for "witch shops" and I'm sure you'll find something near you. Talk to the owners and they'll help direct you where you need to go or what to do. They do cost money, but they give you tools and spell ingredients. You will likely have to purchase your perminate tools later, but they give you pages for your BOS. (Book of shadows)

There is a legal church that has a year and a day program. They send you a monthly package and it's 30-50/month I think... I don't recall... I did look into it and I'm willing to share their information. Look up "the awareness shop" in NY. Their website has all that information and it gets shipped to your door.

Let me repeat, you do not <I>have</I> to pay for a year and a day program to become a witch. You can study and dedicate yourself.

I was 13 years old when I started following my path. I spent 2 years learning and absorbing all the information I could. I decided my spiritual path when I was 15 and started on my "year and a day" path using only what I could get my hands on without any outside help.

My parents are both Christian. That's their spiritual path, this is mine.

By the time I was 16, I was officially a witch. I'm now in my mid 30s.

I live my journey daily. I meditate. I listen to my intuition. I have learned I come from a long line of witches that I never knew,  until quite recently.

My whole point writing today, was to share the real cost of becoming a witch and practicing witchcraft.

Most spells can be done with very little. A piece of paper and a pen, a tea light candle, salt, or just yourself.

The most important thing you need is education before you start performing magic.

Freeze Out Spell

I recently received an email requesting information about a spell to freeze someone out of their life.

For this you can do a Freeze out spell.

There are complicated and simple versions of this across the internet.

You need
- a container you can put objects in with water to freeze
- an object representing the person you want out of your life. (For instance; a piece of paper with their name written, a photo of them, an object they touched)

You can add objects depending on your end goal. For my personal use, a small mason jar or sandwich bag make a great container.  It's simple and causes no harm.

Place the paper with their name written into the baggie, fill with water. Visualize your intent, and say something to the effect of "(name of person) I banish you from my life. I banish you from causing harm to my family and my life."

Freeze the bag with the name inside for a long time. 1+ weeks maybe a month or more... How ever long it takes.

When you're spell is done, you can dispose of your spell in a few ways.
1- toss it in the trash and throw it away
2- let it thaw and flush the contents down the toilet (assuming it's just water and a tiny piece of paper)
3- bury the jar in your yard

I hope this helps

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Here's a few links

http://www.luckymojo.com/freezer.html

https://wiccanspells.info/a-freezer-binding-spell/